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Let us mind our language

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Communication Posted April 29, 2015 No Comments

Of all sense organs, tongue has maximum bearing on our life. It is the instrument to health and social wellbeing. Life gets beautiful if tongue is restrained. Driven by taste and Indulgence we invite multiple diseases – gastritis, diabetes, hypertension, obesity and so on. Using tongue to abuse others costs us respect, culture, social acceptance and mental agony.

Control of tongue and thus speech is essential. One slip of tongue by Draupadi( the wife of Pandavas) caused the battle of Mahabharata. When Duryodhan (the son of Blind King Dhritrashtra) stepped into the pond in Pandava’s palace, mistaking it to be normal floor, she uttered sarcastically “blind son of a blind father”.

Tulsidas in the scripture Ramcharitmanas has pronounced slander as the biggest sin, yet most of us do not mind our language while we talk.

We must choose our words carefully because they tell our:

1. Upbringing (Samskaras)
2. Character
3. Intelligence
4. Mental Balance
5. Etiquette
6. Wisdom
7. Class
8. Reality (Introduction)

It is hence important that,

a) we speak the truth,
b) we speak humbly (with compassion and respect for others),
c) we speak relevant,
d) we speak to the point,
e) we speak without prejudice and pretence,
f) we speak timely,
g) we speak fearlessly.

One needs to understand that abuse in a discussion indicates bankruptcy of ideas. Instead of exploring solution to a problem, we fall prey to “me right you wrong syndrome”. Instead of losing temper and language, one should raise the quality of one’s argument. At workplace, you know the merit of an employee by the content of mails in his sent box. Employers have begun to screen and assess candidates on the basis of their posts on social media. Recruitment and selection process has undergone big change in recent times.

Our development lies in self –audits. The communication development tool is simple. Every day one should,

a) identify one slip made in communication,
b) reframe the same with positive content and tone,
c) resolve to practice correction the following day.

Let us create a world where flow of communication between citizens is positive and healthy.

What colleges do not teach and money cannot buy

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Spirituality Posted April 28, 2015 No Comments

It may be difficult to exactly apportion success in life to each ingredient, but hearing those who hit the top, it is clear that they do not speak of college degrees as key attributes to their success. Many refer to childhood learning from their parents, being the first influence on them, as single major reason for success. Research says that characteristics in a 26 year old are similar to those possessed by him at a pre-school age of 3 years. It is not that education does not matter, it instils knowledge and enforces belief and confidence yet leadership positions on top in all institutions need characteristics that are beyond teachings of universities. Interestingly even money cannot buy these. Fifteen such qualities are listed below.

1. Courage

Courage is among the most important attributes of great leaders – courage to dream big, courage to tread onto the unknown and courage to take bold decisions.

2. Creativity

Creativity requires stillness of mind and imagination and triggers new neural networks. Some people have it in them, most don’t. With their antennas up all the time, universe sends them new ideas. Creativity can be aimless at times yet may end up serving the world.

3. Calm / Emotion management

Ups and downs in life are common and so are daily hurts. Few keep calm in all situations and steer their life ahead to achieve goals without agitation.

4. Common sense

Common sense is rare and an uncommon trait, requires deep understanding of people and situations and triggers matured response to situations and people, knowing exactly what to say and do and when.

5. Compassion

People can feel it in their dealings with others and it makes them willing to reciprocate similarly. Compassion makes the world a better place and happier to live in.

6. Spirituality

Spirituality helps to differentiate between good and bad, keeps the course of life on the righteous path, restraints one to pursue convenience.

7. Sense of humour

People with sense of humour lighten the environment, energize and cheer the surrounding with their presence.

8. Resilience

Life offers hardy situations. Resilient rise after each fall in life and fight all obstacles till the end.

9. Empathy

Empathy makes us wiser in our connects, it sweetens relations.

10. Etiquettes

Etiquettes and mannerisms always appeal and lend finesse and class to personality.

11. Humility

Humble in society have least number of enemies. They waste no time regretting their tongue. They evoke support from all corners.

12. Gratitude

While yearning and ambition are understood, thankfulness for all one has got in life is a great quality. Gratitude also means giving credit to others for your achievements, it motivates self and others.

13. Commitment

Grit and commitment are decisive in choosing between quitting and pursuing. To persist is to succeed.

14. Loyalty

Faithful adherence to norms and devotion to a cause in good and bad times evokes appreciation and reciprocity from friends and colleagues.

15. Happiness

If we see water from the desert it offers us mirage. World is like a desert. Happiness dependant on external objects and situations is illusory and temporary. It’s source is within us, we need to turn inwards and meditate. Status, money or education without happiness become meaningless. Happiness is the goal both at work and home. Happy men create happier world.

Please suggest and add the characteristics that you think are missed out, to the list above.

Measuring Impact of Conferences

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Management Posted April 26, 2015 No Comments

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To make business conferences meaningful, it is important that they be mapped on performance scale. There are good conferences and bad ones. So many man-days are lost in meetings and conferences yielding no returns. Reasons being confused objectives, unclear agenda, bad preparation and poor execution. It is important to fix accountabilities with executives conducting these meetings and hence measure shift in performance and employee engagement from pre to post conference.

Let us take the case of sales meeting in a pharmaceutical company. Performance is easy to measure since these are achievements in numbers against set goals. One could appraise employee engagement, scoring parameters on a scale of 0-5 as below (both pre and post conference)

1. Average number of doctor calls per day
2. Chemist retail audits and feedback on competition
3. In -clinic presentation
4. Scientific product knowledge
5. Implementation of promotion strategy and utilization of inputs
6. Adherence to frequency of doctor visits
7. Number of missed calls in a month out of the list
8. Number of brand conversions
9. Enthusiasm in conducting activities beyond routine work ( say, health check up camps etc.)

It thus becomes easy to map employees on a grid as below:

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Period post conference, say a quarter, can be defined by the company. Desired changes as shown in arrows in green confirm that conference was a good spend in time, money and other resources. Arrows in red suggest that top executives review the same and carefully weigh and consider corrections.

Beware of Eight Time Wasters

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Management Posted April 12, 2015 No Comments

No matter how different we are from others in our backgrounds, personalities and situation, there is one common resource we share with everybody. God has been socialistic in granting everyone 24 hours in a day. From the time we are born till we ride in a hearse, life is all about time and contact management. We are all the time in contact with self, another person, a thing or a task. Quality of time and contact, decides our progress. It is important to audit how our time is spent. Following eight could be big times wasters.

1. Wrong Company

Whom was I with, how long, why and how did it help are important queries. Good company adds value, enhances peace, knowledge, thinking, solution and performance. It instils goodness in the self and companion. Two good men can make the world better. Wrong company is definite waste of time.

2. Wrong Place

Many good opportunities in life are lost by being at the wrong place. Every successful man, if re-examines his life would find one most significant turning point where he was at the right place at right time and that changed the course of his life.

3. Wrong Subject

Think of an employee who has joined the organization anew, has great character and is always in high spirits to learn and deliver. Assuming his problem is product knowledge and skill set, it would be unwise for the boss to keep discussing benefits of enthusiasm and not impart necessary training on product and function.

4. Bad mood

One unpleasant exchange during meeting or otherwise with a team member could spoil the mood. Discussion shifts from the core subject to fixing the other or defending self. It is best to defer sensitive discussions to post meeting strolls in the open, in quietude, one to one.

5. Wrong thing

Research tells that an average American watches more than 30 hours of television per week. In addition we all are busy with computers and smart phones. Lot of such time spent is wasted in life.

6. Wrong technique

“You can practice shooting eight hours a day, but if your technique is wrong, then all you become is very good at shooting the wrong way”, said Michael Jordan. It is important to be first time right. Redoing it again costs time, energy and opportunity.

7. Wrong direction

It does not matter how long you travelled if the direction is wrong. Getting into wrong business and dismantling it later is painful. It is best to do adequate research before pursuing a project.

8. Wrong pace

Too slow, you lose the race. Too rash, you could make expensive mistakes. Choose the right pace.

As in life, so at Work – Freedom to take Decisions

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Management Posted April 12, 2015 No Comments

A) Decisions at home

Decisions at home

We all pass through different stages of decision making in life.
1. When a child is born, he makes no decisions during initial phase of his life. All decisions are of parents.
2. As he begins to crawl till he gets into studies, few decisions become his, most still are held by parents.
3. From late teens till employment most decisions are his, few are still taken by parents.
4. Finally he grows into taking all decisions of his own in life.

B) Decisions at work

Decisions at work

Decisions at work

1. At entry level, during training and induction, employee has no decisions of his own to make. He does as told by the seniors.
2. Accustomed to his job he now begins to take few decisions of his own till he rises to the position of front line management. Most decisions are still held by the bosses.
3. He rises to middle management position and higher order in job where most decisions are his, yet few are held by the owners or the board.
4. If he becomes an entrepreneur, CEO or the Managing Director some time, he is free to take all decisions of his own.

With respect to the decisions at work, it may be noted that reference is not to the quantum as much as to the bearing the decisions have on overall development of the organization and business. Life is easy at work if one understands the following:

Decision taking

a) I cannot take this decision as it violates the core philosophy of business.
b) This is my domain & I can take this decision without any approval from or information to the senior.
c) I can take this decision, but I need to inform my seniors.
d) I can take this decision only on approval from higher ups.

The above does not prohibit anyone from seeking advice and counselling from whosoever. If everyone observes restraint and exercises discretion as above, one would be happy and equally effective in life and at work. Given time tested decisions at work and rising experience, one may gradually expand quadrants c) and b). This would mean assuming authority, becoming assertive and owning up responsibility for the outcome. The rising proportion of two quadrants confirms maturity and growth in life and career.

It may be noted that “good decision making” is a separate chapter.

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