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You can fix your doubts

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Life Posted September 3, 2016 No Comments

Doubts get instilled at a very young age. A toddler keenly looks at the parent for permission, unsure if it’s okay to eat the doughnut or for that matter even touch the mobile phone device. The dilemma continues as one grows. Every individual has some doubts in mind. Arjuna’s doubt whether to fight his kith and kin in the battle led Lord Krishan to recite Bhagwad Geeta. Repeated requests by Arjuna to dispel his doubts are addressed by verses in Geeta. Geeta tells us that our act, be it of austerity, penance, sacrifice or charity, done in mode of goodness, as duty, in line with scriptural teachings, without attachment to results and fruits thereof, with complete faith in the Supreme is the solution to all doubts, bonding and delusion in life.

Our common doubts are,

1.What do others think of me?

2.Would I succeed?

3.Am I permitted to do this?

4.Would they find out?

5.Is this true?

6.What is everyone up to?

7.What will happen tomorrow?

8.Is this the right thing to do?

Doubts as above have negative impact on our health, relations, profession and peace. Doubts ensure that mind does not concentrate on the task at hand. Sceptical of every single feat, our actions get half-hearted, belief tumbles, confidence is shattered, life wasted. All this gets yet worse during difficult phases in life. Imagine a pilot flying an aircraft through rough weathers unsure if he would be able to clear through the turbulence or a surgeon sceptical of his hands operating on patient’s heart. Umpteen marriages, partnerships, projects and ambitions have suffered at the hands of doubts.

Could likes of Sakshi Malik and P V Sindhu have won Rio Olympic medals without faith, belief and conviction in their act or would Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Mother Teresa achieved goals they pursued had they fostered doubts in their minds? Our subconscious is a powerful servant that ensures happenings in life in tune with instructions as fed. Doubts confuse our subconscious, no wonder results mostly are not to our liking.

We need complete faith in our Master to lead a doubt-free and happy life. The eight year old girl was not worried while the Fokker swung up and down in the winds, as her father piloted the aircraft, nor did a six year boy feel awkward, being the only one carrying an umbrella to the prayer ground while the priest performed prayers and rituals to invoke rain Gods to bless the drought stricken village with showers. It is all about faith.

Life is full of uncertainties, yet what can be fixed should be quickly fixed. Some fixes are just a telephone call away. Just talk to the concerned person, ‘now’ and be done with. Some five hundred years ago, Michel de Montaigne said, “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune, most of which never happened”. Interestingly multiple current times studies suggest that over 85% of what we worry about never happens. Some doubts may serve limited good through caution and ‘Stop’ signs, preventing one to indulge in the negative, yet it is time to dispel doubts in life through prayer, meditation, exercise, practice, affirmations, good company, expert coaches and mentors.

(source: spiritualityandmanagement.com)

Coordination in Organizations – Lessons from Human Body and Nature

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Assessments, Cases, Coaching, Communication, Effective Parenting, Leadership, Management, Photography, Spirituality Posted January 25, 2016 No Comments

Success needs coordinated efforts. Organizations need to learn coordination from nature and human body. These two are God’s finest examples to draw lessons from. We know of successful and progressive organizations, also do we know of unsuccessful ones. Harmony, equilibrium, alignment and order indicate one set of companies while conflict, disarray and chaos would tell story for another set.

Every system has a soul. Human soul is symbolic of collective consciousness, performs no function yet carries imprints of our thoughts and deeds from one birth to another. Similarly organizations have their values, culture and tenets ingrained in their day to day practice

Let’s see how human body functions in coordination. The blood that heart pumps is purified by kidneys, while lungs oxygenate it. Heart speeds up the supply of blood by beating faster if body so requires while we exercise. Near one dozen systems like nervous, respiratory, circulatory, digestive, endocrine etc. work in tandem such that each serves the common purpose of keeping the body healthy. On any single day our blood travels 168,000,000 miles. Some 100 billion nerve cells are busy with 10 quadrillion functions per second. The number of veins and cells in trillions are mind boggling. A single organ failing to deliver its function impacts the whole system. Diabetes is nothing but failure of pancreas to produce insulin. We all know how diabetes affects kidneys, eyes and other organs and systems if left untreated. Thus, what is true for human body is true for the organization. A single department or desk failing in its function could fail the entire organization. It is important to remedy the error quickly. Just like those in pink of health have all organs working at their best, so have the best organizations their staff and systems work.

Coordination is the essence of management, and who better to teach it to us than nature itself. While managements have to put in concerted efforts to coordinate, nature needs no effort as such. Coordination as quality is inherent in its very being. It is a great team work among sun, sea, earth, wind, clouds, rains and crop. You can remove none out of the link, each working in unison with the other. The balance among them sustains life on earth. Timelines ensure rains in monsoon and snowfall in winter. Disruptions in the cycle cause drought and floods. Flora and fauna are like companies and clients, inter-dependent on each other.

Coordination integrates synergies in organizations and unleashes exponential energy uplifting business, employees and society at large.

Don’t Permit Hoax Calls to Hijack Your Mood

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Coaching Posted January 24, 2016 No Comments

The news on 23rd January speaks of multiple hoax calls by a mentally disturbed citizen to different airports across India disrupting flight schedules, creating panic, diverting flights, pressing security staff into hectic combing operations, and all this at a time when the country is already on high alert given the recent terrorist strike in Pathankot. We live in stressed times and episodes as above effect unnecessary peaks in the graph, thus consuming precious national resources into combating imaginary situations. With Republic Day two days hence, the incidence assumes greater urgency.

Human body is no different. The system is designed to work in harmony. Minor disturbances correct automatically. Our heart beat, breathing rate, glucose and hormone levels fluctuate with varying exercise, intake, stimuli and thoughts. We all experience happy as well as anxious moments and our in-built self-regulatory system tends to bring us to a steady state. The principle is called Homeostasis. We sulk with every failure, loss and tragedy in life but the psychological immunity brings us back to happiness after a while. The examples quoted are real life situations.

Human mind is a wonderful phenomenon. It can visualize situations that need not exist. We know that the subconscious mind cannot differentiate between situations, real or imaginary. It acts as it is fed and that most of our conduct and outcomes in life are because of our subconscious. Anxiety causes stress hormones like cortisol in our body to rise and such anxiety need not arise out of any rational reasons. Body and mind are adequately programmed to combat different situations and can be trained to combat the unusual.

So far so good, but what happens if the mind begins to entertain hoax threat calls that do not exist? Well! Just like did the security forces get into immediate action on the news as above, so would human system respond to calls, real or hoax. It tends to rush blood supply to the periphery, raising blood pressure and increasing heart rate. Anxiety peaks and stress hormones are released. In brief the system is put on high alert unnecessarily. This consumes energy and disturbs equilibrium. There being no real threat, uncertainty may prevail and even if resolved, another hoax call could happen, and then yet another. We create a pattern of entertaining hoax calls that compromise our immunity and destroy our faculties. This gets worse if body is already fighting some disease.

Some of these hoax calls are:

1. I am going to fail
2. My friend does not confide in me anymore
3. I would fall sick
4. I may lose my job
5. My colleague is feeding the boss against me
6. My spouse could be cheating
7. The flight could crash

The list could go on and on, making us fret about undue presumptions as well as future. It’s time we audit such hoax calls, sift them from the real and affirm neither to raise nor entertain them. Let us not permit hoax calls to hijack our mood, goals and schedule. Let us feed our mind with positive thoughts.

Life is a balance between opposing forces, the point of balance is different for different individuals

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Spirituality Posted December 31, 2015 No Comments

Life is paradoxical. We have high intense activity at one end and complete calm on the other. At times it seems distressing, at times joyful. Some phases are utterly chaotic while others are orderly. We love some people the most in our life, while we hate others to the hilt. We fast and abstain from certain food and activities on some occasions and indulge in them on other days. We are charitable and forgiving on some days, but stingy and punitive on other days. Our moods swing haywire. Our response to similar situations varies with times. We are unpredictable in our conduct. We are both open and secretive.

Spirituality fixes this dilemma. It helps us to realize that while human instincts and universe remain polarized between opposing forces, one can sustain blissful living through right balance. Daily interventions help. The very thought of accepting that what we cannot change is solacing. Attempt to change what we can for the larger good, without clinging to desire for fruitful outcome, is uplifting. Thus emerges the phenomenon of coexistence of unchangeable and changeable. God has blessed us with discretion to differentiate between the two and accept and act accordingly. Our actions thus should remain Insulated from agitation and desire. If only we do what we should, with such sense of detachment, our journey in life is peaceful.

Why good performers fail?

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Management Posted May 11, 2015 No Comments

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When experts and skilful employees begin to take their success for granted, the unexpected happens. They fail. This is true for employees and true for companies. Take the case of a sales executive who delivered results continuously for ten years but is now struggling for numbers for last two years. Ignorant of definite reasons solutions elude him. His energy, participation, motivation and engagement have dipped. Sales have gone for a toss. Work seems more like tolerance than enjoyment. Peter Principle, that Managers rise to their level of incompetence, sets in.
Well, there is a cause to every effect. We have closely studied such patterns in last twenty years and through close observation of cases have come to following dominant reasons.

1. Health

a) Mr X was among the best employees in the company working in sales department, met his targets year after year and was highly appreciated by all. He had close contacts with customers and enjoyed great reputation in the market. He was diagnosed with clogged arteries, decided to undergo surgery with a private institution. Company went overboard to meet 70% of the treatment expense against written policy. Mr X felt the support was inadequate and ever since his engagement fell and he finally left the organization.

b) In his book ‘Serve to Win’, Novak DJokovic writes that It struck him after the match ( Australian open quarter final against Jo-Wilfred Tsonga in 2010) that he should have won. He lost with intermittent medical timeout and abdominal discomfort. In 2011 Djokovic won three Grand Slam tournaments – Australian Open, Wimbledon and US Open, won an astonishing 50 out of 51 tournaments over 12 months. In 2012 he beat Rafael Nadal in Australian open in a match that lasted 5 hours and 53 minutes. What transformed him? Till 2011, he had skills, talent, drive, but he was eating Gluten which did not go with his system. He was allergic to it. Once diagnosed, he removed healthy whole grains from his diet and we know what happened ever since to his performance. Health and performance have a strong connection than we care to admit.

2. Company Policy

Mr Z has been consistent in results, had multiple promotions and rose to the position of a Sales Manager in a pharmaceutical company selling prescription drugs. Company changed its’ policy with respect to free bonus on products revising it downwards for distributors and retailers. Management explained the policy stating that free units only benefited the trade and had nil effect on patient, prescriptions and doctors. Mr Z could not come to terms with the shift in policy, nor could convince his team and thus his performance dipped that year. It is hence important to ensure that policy is either accepted in spirit by staff or it gets reviewed and amended.

3. Family

This manager lost his wife at young age, needed to tend his little kids, is caught in a dilemma, whether to remarry or not. It has begun to affect his work and results.

Reasons affecting performance could be many, including children, sickness of a member, relations with the spouse, excess loan, property disputes etc. Sometimes family hits a jackpot (share market/inheritance/ plum post of a family member) that gives excessive security to the employee and he begins to take his employment easy.

4. Team

This manager lost his best team member to competition and ever since the performance of the team has fallen low. If a manager has six members in a team, all six must operate on all cylinders, it then becomes easy to replace one member’s loss and restore business.

5. Thinking own start up

This manager was evaluating a start-up venture of his own. With the mind split between options, his involvement at job and thus performance reduced considerably for two quarters. The plan did not work out and he finally decided to continue his employment and returned back to his earlier performance.

6. Boss

Many employees feel that they do not get timely raise, praise and promotion. Good work gets rewarded by more work. They feel seniors change their tone with change in results. As performance falls, supervision goes up and trust goes down. Sensitive and strategic information is not shared with them. Employees find this insulting. HBR’s article titled ‘Set up to fail syndrome’, says, “our research strongly suggests that bosses—albeit accidentally and usually with the best intentions—are often complicit in an employee’s lack of success.” Employees begin to feel victims and lose interest in job.

7. Bored

The manager has moved up in designations but his job functions have not enlarged. There is no job rotation as a concept in his company. He is higher up in position with more employees in his team – all doing similar work. He does not find new challenges, no new learning, is fatigued with monotony. It is hence important that job demands, skill set and spirit are aligned.

8. Peter Principle

Many managers do not keep up to date with times. Markets change, so does competition. These managers find difficult to establish new brands and businesses. They choke while pressure builds up at work.

The downward spiral is not sacrosanct. It can be unwound through conscious counselling, positive affirmations and structured programs to develop employees.

Let us mind our language

By Ajay Kumar Handa In Communication Posted April 29, 2015 No Comments

Of all sense organs, tongue has maximum bearing on our life. It is the instrument to health and social wellbeing. Life gets beautiful if tongue is restrained. Driven by taste and Indulgence we invite multiple diseases – gastritis, diabetes, hypertension, obesity and so on. Using tongue to abuse others costs us respect, culture, social acceptance and mental agony.

Control of tongue and thus speech is essential. One slip of tongue by Draupadi( the wife of Pandavas) caused the battle of Mahabharata. When Duryodhan (the son of Blind King Dhritrashtra) stepped into the pond in Pandava’s palace, mistaking it to be normal floor, she uttered sarcastically “blind son of a blind father”.

Tulsidas in the scripture Ramcharitmanas has pronounced slander as the biggest sin, yet most of us do not mind our language while we talk.

We must choose our words carefully because they tell our:

1. Upbringing (Samskaras)
2. Character
3. Intelligence
4. Mental Balance
5. Etiquette
6. Wisdom
7. Class
8. Reality (Introduction)

It is hence important that,

a) we speak the truth,
b) we speak humbly (with compassion and respect for others),
c) we speak relevant,
d) we speak to the point,
e) we speak without prejudice and pretence,
f) we speak timely,
g) we speak fearlessly.

One needs to understand that abuse in a discussion indicates bankruptcy of ideas. Instead of exploring solution to a problem, we fall prey to “me right you wrong syndrome”. Instead of losing temper and language, one should raise the quality of one’s argument. At workplace, you know the merit of an employee by the content of mails in his sent box. Employers have begun to screen and assess candidates on the basis of their posts on social media. Recruitment and selection process has undergone big change in recent times.

Our development lies in self –audits. The communication development tool is simple. Every day one should,

a) identify one slip made in communication,
b) reframe the same with positive content and tone,
c) resolve to practice correction the following day.

Let us create a world where flow of communication between citizens is positive and healthy.

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